True Love

Everyone I truly love in my heart I have worked to truly love, to understand them better and to appreciate the relationship more than superficially. All my life I've had to work at love, to nourish it and sustain it, to pay attention to it so I don't lose or forget it, and most importantly, to keep it.

For me, working at these loves have built foundations for trust and faith which are absolute necessities for relationships to survive because through these, respect is formed and these form honesty and a mutual bonding for love, as well as the basic foundations for friendship.

True love is very special and essential for me as a person to have; so, while this love doesn't come easily, or stay easily, I don't mind the work because for me the work is validation and reassurance of the love and the relationship.

True love, from faith, trust, respect and honesty are also important not just as reassurance or validation, but also as a  foundation of strength. This strength which comes out of true love is what keeps the love; it becomes the renewal source of energy within the relationship which also makes the relationship itself a renewal source. 

The goal of love is for you to spread that love, to share that love and let it grow in the world to not just your partner or your family, but includes your human family in the world as well.

So how do we truly love our fellow man? 

I’m starting to repeat myself here, but, self love and self awareness is where this begins. Without self love you cannot truly love someone else, let alone loving your fellow man. How are you going to love your fellow man if you hold yourself in contempt? You can’t. So again, we must work on that person whom we call ‘me’. 

And you will have to work to love that person. You may have to change things before you find you can, but it is possible; you just need a direction and a little effort. You can break through the trauma and social conditioning. You can love yourself because you are not your trauma. Fix what is shattered within and you will be pleased when you look out into the world’s mirror of you in others. And once you can love yourself, you will know true love. 

How do you love yourself? Forgiveness. Forgiveness of your trauma done to you, and that you’ve done to others. You must let go, and then move past.

So, what of true love? True love is love beyond oneself.